Impact play is the act of striking another person with your hand or implement. It can be satisfying for folks on both ends of the spectrum, but safety comes first no matter what. Why let anything get in the way of a fun and pleasurable time?
Know Where To Hit/ Not To Hit – Fatty and muscley spots on the body are ideal targets during impact play. The butt, thighs, upper back (not the spine) are ideal for getting whacked. Kidneys, throat, spine (including the tailbone), head, wrists and hands are all places you want to avoid. It is a good idea to stay away from areas that surround vital organs and bones with very little muscle or fat covering them. The area where the ass and thigh meet is an ideal target – it is padded and is super sensitive.
Establish A Scale Of Pain – You definitely want to make sure that you’re both on the same page with this one. We are all unique little snowflakes that perceive pain at different levels. Give it a test run and start slow. Your 3 might be their 9. Find out what the limits are and work your way up to them.
Find The Right Type Of Implement – There are a variety of implements that can be used and how to pick exactly which one goes far beyond the information given here. I’m just here to help you get started. It is always good to test the waters and find out what type of impact you enjoy the most. Thin implements, like canes, give more of a sting, while implements with a wide surface, like paddles, give thuddy sensations.
Establish A Safe Word And Aftercare Plan Before Playing – No matter how excited you are to get started, establish a safe word and/or a safe signal (in case your mouth is going to be occupied by someone or something). You need to be able to call action to a halt if necessary. Also, let you partner know what you’ll need or how you’d like to be taken care of once playtime is over. You may be too exhausted to really get your point across afterwards. Plus, a nice seamless transition makes for more satisfying play.
Again, these are basic tips to get you started or to remind you to play safe! We’ll get more in depth at a later date. Enjoy!